“Christians never say goodbye” – C.S. Lewis

Tomorrow our family of seven will board an airplane to travel across the world back to Pretoria, South Africa.  We have been in the U.S. for three months and, by God’s grace,  have used the time to accomplish many tasks:

After going through all our “stuff”, we held a couple of Garage Sales.DSC_0630

We collected baby home supplies and books for a church library.DSC_0676

We packed up a shipping container with belongings and donations which is now somewhere at sea.DSC_0682

We had passports and visas renewedDSC_0169

And had several friend and family reunions.Putt-puttDSC_0660

And now ready or not, South Africa, here we come.  We are so thankful for what we have waiting on that side:  an amazing community of fellow believers to work alongside for the cause of Christ, a new home to settle into, a church family to love and pour into.  However, as excited as we are about resuming our life and ministry in South Africa, I do NOT do well with saying goodbye. Like… Not. At. All. (Did you know that the word “goodbye” is a contraction for “God be with ye”?)

I read an article title, “Gospel People Say Goodbye”  by Jared Musgrove, from the Village Church blog, awhile ago which I would like to repost here because it reflects my sentiment well.

We are a church that is saying goodbye with much more frequency. To some good brothers and sisters. It’s never easy. Especially when you are seeing godly people in your life go.

Some of us are better at goodbyes than others.

Some are quick to say goodbye. Rip off the Band-Aid. Fare thee well. That’s life.

Others say goodbye several times, intended or not. Like saying “good night” before you both realize you’re actually headed toward the same elevator, this may or may not be a gift of anything but awkwardness.

Then there’s the couched-in-familiarity “see ya later” final greeting, both of you pausing for a moment after you say it, realizing that, well, you probably won’t.

We are all somewhat clumsy with our farewells. Probably because they reintroduce us all over again to the fact that we are not in ultimate control of our lives or of anyone else’s.

Yet, saying goodbye is the way of the sending church.

In my own heart, I’m very prone to want to keep my community to myself and not share them. And the book of Acts presses me on this preference.

A few years ago, I got to Acts in my Bible reading plan and, though I didn’t go in looking for this, what was revealed to me was a repeating pattern: As Christ is building His church, He brings His people together in groups for a time, for seasons, to accomplish kingdom work.

Some stay together to nurture the work. Others are called out to start still other works.

Two thousand years later, this is still the ebb and flow of healthy Christian community.

Godly people hold one another with an open hand. What God showed me in Acts caused me to consider anew the Great Commission of Christ in Matthew 28. By His Word, He gently began to pry my tightly closed fist open, me screaming all the way, “These are my friends, God. This is who I need with me to follow you. They speak into my life. We’ve been through a lot together. I’m not letting them go.”

In His grace to me, He began leading these people out of my proximity. This continues today for me, and I’d guess for you, too. He still leads friends away to other kingdom works. He’s growing me to be quicker to say, “O God, these brothers and sisters don’t belong to me. I’m not the master of their days; Jesus is.”

Even in the community of my own family—my wife and my son—I must recognize Jesus commands their destinies. “God, they are not mine to do with and to direct as I please. Under your leadership I will lead them, but Lord, you have your way with them.”

Truth is, godly people hold one another with an open hand. Godly people who are about the gospel say goodbye often, confident in our union together as the family of God and confident that we will celebrate again. We WILL see one another again at the marriage supper of the Lamb. We will be with God together. For all time.

But now, just for a little while, we have little time to waste. The Great Commission overrides any attempts to build our own little castle of community we want to rule over. God is so much greater. We’re called to hold one another with an open hand. This is the legacy of disciple-making into which the first disciples were called—a call that still resounds.

It still resounds.

We are part of an ages-old, ongoing, epic work of the Creator God, Whose image we bear, who is transforming us still by His work in Christ through our Christian community. It says something about who we are as the body of Christ that we have said many gospel goodbyes. Christians living rightly consistently say goodbye.

No one in our lives is with us constantly, save for the Lord Jesus by His Holy Spirit.

It is in this that we trust, as we say our goodbyes with great hope.


5 thoughts on ““Christians never say goodbye” – C.S. Lewis

  1. We will miss the Clarks terribly, but are “trusting our goodbye with great hope.” Loved being together and love you!

  2. What a beautiful post. Yours is such a special family. You will be so missed. We will be praying for you in these next few months of transition. We love the Clarks!

  3. Hi dear friends! As you say goodbye again, we can’t wait to say hello again!
    Thank you for the beautiful piece from Jared Musgrove…our church is actually busy with the book of Acts and doing Acts 13-14 this morning…Paul’s first mission trip…I was also confronted with this same thing. If our church will be sending someone out on a mission, we will have to say goodbye. And what if you have to say goodbye to your shepherd! It’s OK, God will provide. He has the plan and praise Him that we are part of this plan. Praise Him that He gently teaches us and prepare our hearts to be equipped in living His plans for growing His church. Love you sooooo much! We will pray for a safe journey to South Africa…amazing to think how many thousands of kilometers you can do now for God’s work in a few days, compared to when Paul had to travel. Lots to reflect upon.

  4. Farewell friends as you start on yet another journey with our God. We shall look forward to what God is going to do in ALL your lives. Don/Barb C

    On Sun, Jan 11, 2015 at 12:47 AM, Journey with us as we follow Christ to

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